No Answers To My Profile – The Solution

You say that you have been online with your dating profile for a while now and nobody seems to answer or even respond. This is one of the most common maladies of the online dating community whether you are a Senior or a young go-getter. Sometimes when you do get a response it doesn’t come close to your profile, interests or age. Here are a few of the most common mistakes or reasons as to why this is happening.

1)Terrible Photo: Let’s face it. The first thing anyone sees and forms an opinion about is your photo. Men are prone to scan your picture first and if they don’t see anything appealing they move on very quickly to the next one. Men will not even look at the profile unless the photo peaks their interest. Take a good look at similar dating sites to the one you have chosen and see which ones appeal to you. What is it that stands out among the thousands? Is it boring? Maybe out of focus? Perhaps too sexual for the clients you are seeking? Think outside the box. Make it eye catching or unusual perhaps even humorous. Did you smile?

2)Verify: Here is a place where you can go to Verify your photo . Half of the photos on dating sites are fake. http://www.checkedprofile.com. People will feel more secure.

3)Your profile sucks: Forget the dumb (catchy one liner) that you thought was so cool but too common. You can go into depth about who you are in the rest of your profile. First impressions are tantamount to anyone wanting a potential mate to look further. You need to also state the type of person you are looking for such as race, religion, age, sex and possibly location.

4)Acronyms: What is an Acronym? In the online world these are used for abbreviations. You need to use them sparingly because if too many your date might think you are either too lazy to spell it out or uneducated to write. Here are some examples: CPL (couple), FYI (For Your Information), D&D Free ( Drug and Disease free), G (Gay), FAQ (Frequently Asked Questions), SBF (Single Black Female), TG (Transgendered), ISO (In Search Of). The list is long.

5)Too Particular: Picky Picky Picky. You’re impossible. You are too needy. You want Mr. & Mrs. perfection. Trim the fat. There are some basics to consider such as proximity and location, age difference, ( perhaps 15 yrs. a maximum), maybe a limit on “baggage” like too many kids, or financial problems or a pending divorce. There probably is an abundance of people who you would find terrific but don’t fit into many other categories. You need to be more tolerant of other people and their imperfections.

6)Money is a factor: There is one basic element of online dating services that is constant. The free sites are not niche driven. The number of unacceptable members increase simply because it’s free. There are numerous sites that are not as expensive and the big branded sites. If you search you will find a date site probably more exact as to the kind of person you are seeking. These are persons who are more serious players since they put their money where their mouth is.

You need to be persistent. Face it, there are thousands of people out there looking just like you are. That’s good not bad. Don’t feel being rejected as an ominous sign. Don’t take it personally because you don’t even know them. Just move on to the next possibility. Life is like a salesman. You don’t care if the door slams shut 50 times. The only one that counts is the person that said come in and let’s see what you have. Maybe, just maybe, you will make that sale or meet your match.